Sometimes life in the bedroom can become stale, the same old, same old. We find ourselves waiting for more exciting things to happen, but that doesn’t work…
If that sounds familiar, you’ve come to the right place. After a relationship has gone through that initial honeymoon stage, it takes a lot more communication and expression to keep the magic alive, and not just in the bedroom. Whilst you’re in the bedroom bored, you’ve got fantasies running around in your head just waiting for you to pluck up enough courage to start that discussion, but you just can’t for some reason. There are many reasons why people keep fantasies to themselves: they’re shy, they think it’s taboo, or they fear rejection. They’re all valid reasons, and you need to do what feels comfortable.
If you’re still here, curiosity has piqued your interest, and you’re ready to explore 5 extremely common sexual fantasies for couples today.
Voyeurism
Do you ever get turned on by seeing someone else naked/performing sex acts? If so, then you’re a voyeur deep inside. Getting sexually aroused by watching other people is one of the most common sexual fantasies, and it’s easily achievable for couples. If you want to watch your partner doing something, then you need to talk to them and explain why – the chances are they’ll be open to the idea.
Once you’ve spoken about this sexual fantasy, you may find that they share it. Luckily, you can both explore this together at the click of your fingers thanks to the internet. With everything from porn movies to UK sexcams, you’re bound to find something to suit you both and have a good time. Even before the internet, you could fulfil your voyeuristic need through the likes of Babestation on the TV. Now, the notorious brand has shifted online with the introduction of Babestation cams – you and your partner can engage with some of their hottest models and explore your desires together.
Messy Visuals
Staying on the topic of visuals, many couples enjoy being their own audience by propping a full-length mirror up for front row seats. Communicate openly if this is something you want to explore as they may indulge in your request. Being able to see everything from different angles could greatly boost your confidence. It’s only one step away from making a raunchy video – the perk is that there’s no evidence afterwards.
Watching ourselves have sex is considered taboo according to Elite Daily, which they say makes the fantasy even more appealing. The reason that people enjoy this fantasy is that our brains are hardwired to become aroused by what we see more than what we feel.
Domination
This is one of the most popular fantasies for couples and has seen large popularity in recent years. People get turned on by the thought of dominating their partner to the point that they are begging for more. Couples use toys, such as whips, handcuffs, and gags. Although still considered a taboo, it has become prevalent within Hollywood, with a certain Anastasia Steele being dominated by Christian Grey.
If you’re going to explore this with your partner, you need to have a discussion. Before pulling the rope out, you need to set boundaries and come up with a safe word in case things become too much. For an interesting read, head over to Medical Daily to find out everything you need to know about domination and submission.
Toy Play
The use of sex toys in the bedroom is another extremely popular fantasy amongst couples and is easily accessible with online shops making it possible to shop without finding the courage to enter a sex shop. Technology has advanced sex toys, and there’s something for everybody to explore. As with everything else, you need to discuss with your partner what it is you want to explore and see if they’re on board as well.
For some people, using sex toys with their partner is a turn on visually, and for others, it can be a way of overcoming bedroom anxieties. No matter what the reason, you need to find the confidence to communicate your sexual fantasies with your partner.
Role-Playing
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Roleplay has always been a big fantasy for couples, whether you want your partner to become a pilot ready to take you to cloud nine or a maid at your command. No matter what the scenario, there are some common issues that people face – the most common is that it can feel extremely awkward acting out entire scenarios as someone else. If this is something you want to explore, you’ll need to have a conversation with your partner and guide them through the experience, reminding them why you find it such a turn on.
A Word of Warning
Sharing your fantasies with your partner can be exhilarating and can boost your intimacy levels. However, keep in mind that not everyone is comfortable sharing their hidden desires, so don’t pressure them. Further, communication is important and sometimes you will explore something with your partner that doesn’t go to plan, but don’t worry, that’s all part of the fun.
Every couple has sexual fantasies that they want to explore. The problem is that people are often afraid to communicate their desires. If you feel alone, rest assured that you’re one of the millions of other people all fantasizing about the same thing. Once you’ve plucked up the courage to talk to your partner, you can start opening the door to better sex life. Doing research together can help put you at ease and give you a good starting point for your exploration. You will find that fantasies often come from a desire to be sexually aroused and are linked heavily to what we see during sexual encounters. The most important thing to remember is to make sure that you have full consent, set boundaries, and have fun along the way.