Our party night is nearly here! People think that not much planning goes into this sort of thing. Yet, even though it seems easy to get a sex or swingers party started. It is more complicated than that. People assume all you need is some sexy people, women in lingerie or better yet naked people and a venue. But it doesn’t work like that. People are temperamental and timid. Also its natural to be scared and anxious if its your first time at a party or sexy get together.
There is also the matter of fact that personalities don’t match up. That people in this lifestyle are not free or as uninhibited as thought or assumed to be. And usually for first timers it can be a nightmare first experience. For more experienced folk it can be a bore to land up at a party you would have rather skipped.
So, before we get into the ice breaking parts, let’s start with the get together/party. Firstly, a good venue…your home or a lodge, resort, hotel and so on. Then the guest list, make sure to match, think of culture matching like in the workplace. That means you can’t mix wild party animals with more introverted couples or singles. Pushy people should not be mixed with newbies (new to the lifestyle). Remember this should be more of a no pressure environment. Everyone ought to feel comfortable and relaxed enough to participate in the evenings events. Get some snacks and drinks or ask guests to bring some along. Make sure directions are clear to the venue to avoid anyone getting lost. We not trying to play a game of Jumanji here. Then let people do a meet and greet to sort of get “feel” for each other. Introduce people you feel might mesh well together and let things progress naturally. Conversation wise I mean, for now anyway, then let the games begin!
These are a few games we used (when I use to host some swingers parties) to ease tension, sexual or other. Also, to introduce people to each other and basically to break the ice. Make things more fun and bring forth the nights festivities.
Spin the bottle
Yes, old school, this works wonders and is easy to do and usually everyone knows how to play it. So, in essence you get a bottle preferably empty and that spins well. Get everyone to sit in a circle, and choose someone to spin the bottle. The spinner (person who spun the bottle will then ask the person the head of bottle is pointing to a question (sexual, private, etc.) or dare the person to do something safe yet raunchy. Examples would be like, dare them to take a clothing item off or to kiss someone and so forth. Rules are, no one is obliged to do anything they are not comfy with. Limit people to only 2-3 truth questions and then the rest will be dares, just to make it more interesting. It’s hilarious and a lot of sexy fun.
Word play
At the beginning of the evening, tell guests that there are words or phrases they are not allowed to say for like say the next two hours. Examples will be like words sexy, or suck or lick…you have the idea right? And the penalty will be to remove an item of clothing. This risqué game leaves your guests imaginations running wild. Think about what the sight of underwear or an outline of sexy cleavage or keister might spark?
Suck and blow
No, no dirty devious minds, zip up or put your undies back on (well till later on that is, wink wink). Here’s how it goes, get paper money or a playing card. Let guests stand or sit close together but mixed genders or same genders, if that’s what people are into, then start by one person sucking in cars or paper money on their mouths and letting them pass/blow it onto the next persons mouth but catch is…no hands. There will be giggling, dropping the card or money for kicks is the extra bonus.
Roll the ball
This is a game that will need pairs of two, male and female or which ever guests prefer. You don’t necessarily need actual couples but at least have an even number of participants, as long as everyone has a partner to play with. To play this game you need a rubber ball that players have to press between their stomachs.
So, the aim of this game is to move and squirm together to roll the rubber ball up to the chin officer the shorter of the partners in the pairs or “couple”. You need only one ball or an orange, this way one couple play while others watch. Voyeuristic maybe, but hilarious to watch. Plus, its sexy. I mean tummies and pelvis to pelvis or stomach to crouch if other partner is shorter.
Naked twister
Okay, so I’m sure people would have stripped down to undies by now, yay! So, why not put some people in awkward positions. I’m talking boobs, legs and ass’s in the air. Yes, the twister game! But this one is not for kids. Spin the dial and let people flex and twist like pretzels. Naked is best but undies is good too.
Roll the dice
So everyone should be loosened up and chilled, let’s bring out one of the big guns, sexually speaking. Put everyone’s name on paper strips then place in a hat, bowl or a bag. Mix them up then take turns rolling sexy dice and then choose a name from the mix and do the things on the dice. Don’t worry the dice comes in a “softer” or novice type as well. Kissing, touches etc. as appose to full on positions. This game eases sexual tension and def helps breaks the ice.
Hide and seek
No, not the real hide and seek game. There goes your fantasies of seeing naked couples or people running around. All their jiggly bits bouncing around looking for each other. This game might be sexier and more entertaining. For this one you need to split the dames and gentlemen in two different teams. They then take turns, each team pick a small item that the other team has to hide on one of its players. Then, one of the players of the team who picked the object has to look for the object on the opposing team while being blindfolded.
It is a sure way to heat up the evening. I mean being touched and explored by strange hands, the anticipation because you can’t see what’s coming.
The team that finds the hidden object in the shortest time wins. Continue as long as there are players. But, not sure if people will be able to contain themselves, guess it depends where people hide the items huh?
Ice – Ice Baby
Hot and cold play is such a turn on. Wax for some but usually ice for most. I can’t forget the sensual, sexy scene from 9 and a half weeks. That “ice” play scene is so tantalizingly alluring, my mouth is even watering thinking about it.
There’s one game I personally enjoy, its called “suck it”- split guests into two equal(gender mixing up to you and guests) teams, give each two to three ice cubes. Count them down and then begin by letting the first player of each team take an ice cube in their mouth and then immediately passes it to the next team mates mouth – no hands. This means at some point someone will need to suck a cube out of another’s mouth. No one can keep an ice cube in their mouths for longer than two seconds. The first team to melt all of their ice cubes wins!
Speaking of ice…here’s a very risqué game to take all of you to the climax (pun intended) of the night. Get couples or mixed pairs- again male and female, male and male, female and female it depends on the preference of your guests etc.
What you will need is… couples (or two players), each pair needs to be half naked like stripped down to their undies or they go full Monty naked. And then some ice cubes (not small ones). Then, one person in the pair lays down on their back while the other places the ice block between their lips and guides it up from their legs up to their laying partners mouth. See who can get there the fastest and watch people get all hot and bothered. Yes, detours are definitely allowed.
These are the cream of the crop, tried and tested ice breaking games you can try. This is a sure fire way to create a comfortable and provocative ambience. Remember, no one should be forced to do anything they don’t want to do. But these games would be an awesome introduction to the next phase of the evening. Have fun, let loose and enjoy!